Mild sexual contentThere has been a lot of talk about "swingers" recently and I know some people are not too sure what this actually means or how swingers parties are organised. As this is an educational blog, I will try my best to enlighten you!
Swinging includes a wide range of sexual activities conducted between three or more people. Swinging activities can include having sex with a partner while being watched; watching others have sex, (perhaps with the above-mentioned partner); kissing, stroking, or "soft swinging" having oral sex with a third or fourth person. The type most people think of when they hear the word "swinger" is the "full swap" - having sex with someone other than one's partner. Typically, swinging activities occur when a married, (or otherwise committed) couple engages with a similar couple or a single individual.
Interestingly rather than having a negative effect on relationships, it appears to have the opposite effect. According to theramonitor.com studies have consistently found that swingers have better pair-bonds than monogamous couples. The most recent and most thorough study, based on an Internet questionnaire addressed to visitors of lifestyle-related sites, found swingers are happier in their relationships than the norm. 60% of swingers said that swinging improved their relationship and only 1.7% said it made their relationship less happy.
According to the same website, Terry Gould's book The Lifestyle: A Look at the Erotic Rites of Swingers (ISBN 1552094820), claims swinging began among U.S. Air Force pilots and their wives during World War II.
In the 1990s the phenomenon of "Urban Swingers" began, starting with "Fever Parties" in London in the late 1990s and involves affluent metropolitan young people, discrimination on the basis on looks and an upper age limit usually around 40.
Urban swinging events include mostly childless, unmarried young graduates and can have average ages as low as the late twenties, whereas ordinary or 'suburban' swingers events tend to have average ages in the 40s. Urban swinging subsequently spread to Manchester (UK), Norway, South Africa and Sweden and the USA. (source:theramonitor.com)
Let's take a look at "Fever Parties" and the high-profile British connection. In 2003, it was revealed that Dougie Smith, a senior Tory strategist was the man behind the "Fever Parties" in London.
Smith was also coordinator of Conservatives for Change (Cchange), an influential Tory think tank founded in 2002 by Francis Maude (the former Tory shadow chancellor) and supporters of Michael Portillo. Board members included, "Theresa May, the Conservative party chairman" and "Archie Norman MP, the former Asda boss."
The Times reported "Smith confirmed that for five years he has been bringing together a fashionable London set of professionals for sex parties in Mayfair town houses and country mansions. The parties, attended by up to 50 couples at a time, carry on until dawn, with participants swapping partners and taking part in unusual combinations."
The article quoted Smith as saying, "I have never made a secret about the fact that I run both Cchange and Fever. The two things don't overlap and therefore do not pose a problem. Fortunately we're living in the 21st century and even naturally censorious people tend to feel slightly self-conscious about wagging their fingers at what consenting adults do behind closed doors."
At the time Maude, who as the chairman of Cchange, was Smith's boss, said: "I have no idea what he gets up to in his private life, and as long as it's legal I don't care."
In 2005 it was reported in the Daily Mail, that Emma Jeynes who in 2003 was reported by The Times, to be marketing director with a company that produces events for Buckingham Palace, had replaced Dougie Smith as organiser of Fever.
Let's take a look at "Fever Parties" and the high-profile British connection. In 2003, it was revealed that Dougie Smith, a senior Tory strategist was the man behind the "Fever Parties" in London.
Smith was also coordinator of Conservatives for Change (Cchange), an influential Tory think tank founded in 2002 by Francis Maude (the former Tory shadow chancellor) and supporters of Michael Portillo. Board members included, "Theresa May, the Conservative party chairman" and "Archie Norman MP, the former Asda boss."
The Times reported "Smith confirmed that for five years he has been bringing together a fashionable London set of professionals for sex parties in Mayfair town houses and country mansions. The parties, attended by up to 50 couples at a time, carry on until dawn, with participants swapping partners and taking part in unusual combinations."
The article quoted Smith as saying, "I have never made a secret about the fact that I run both Cchange and Fever. The two things don't overlap and therefore do not pose a problem. Fortunately we're living in the 21st century and even naturally censorious people tend to feel slightly self-conscious about wagging their fingers at what consenting adults do behind closed doors."
At the time Maude, who as the chairman of Cchange, was Smith's boss, said: "I have no idea what he gets up to in his private life, and as long as it's legal I don't care."
In 2005 it was reported in the Daily Mail, that Emma Jeynes who in 2003 was reported by The Times, to be marketing director with a company that produces events for Buckingham Palace, had replaced Dougie Smith as organiser of Fever.
Emma is the daughter of Britain's former defence attache to Egypt and Kuwait. The Daily Mail reported, "Emma's mother, Malvin, head charity fundraiser at the Royal Marsden Hospital - was also the top liaison officer in Germany at the time of the fall of the Berlin Wall".
The Mail also claimed that Emma was dating an "Australian hunk" and any suggestion it was me is ludicrous, hurtful and unhelpful. I don't have that much luck!
"Fevers" current website shows it also has a caring side -
The Mail also claimed that Emma was dating an "Australian hunk" and any suggestion it was me is ludicrous, hurtful and unhelpful. I don't have that much luck!
"Fevers" current website shows it also has a caring side -
"Fever uses a lot of beds. Not just our specially built Big Beds, which are reinforced with steel plates, but also many normal-sized double beds by themselves or in pairs which we deploy to provide as much playspace as possible. Naturally over time, given what we use them for, they get the stuffing knocked out of them and they need to be replaced. This Christmas season we started with a small bed shop's worth of brand-new double beds and by the end of the month they were as good as new. So we were delighted to hand them over to one of London's many charities for the homeless. We wish the best of luck to everyone that they help."
Incidentally, as a former moderator of a couple of adult newsgroups, (during which time I formed good friendships with UK contacts, some of which have family trees that would be well known in th Britain), I don't have a problem with swingers as long as they make sure their priorities and legal and moral responsibilities are taken care of first.
Incidentally, as a former moderator of a couple of adult newsgroups, (during which time I formed good friendships with UK contacts, some of which have family trees that would be well known in th Britain), I don't have a problem with swingers as long as they make sure their priorities and legal and moral responsibilities are taken care of first.
